From: NanaUPDATE: here's TH's email back:
Date: April 15, 2010
Subject: HB's b'day
We can do whatever you're comfortable with that birthday weekend. We can also pay for our own room! It's not possible for us to visit before then? Baba hasn't seen HB since November and I since Dec. I'm feeling that you/HB/DM aren't comfortable around us.....why is that? I know that HB had that outburst when I was there, and it was very upsetting for everyone. Am I the only one he throws tantrums to?
I just don't understand what's going on? Enlighten me, please!
From: THHe's prepared for just about any response including total shunning. He said the only thing she definitely won't respond with is to say "you're right, and I'll be going for a year of dialectical behavioral therapy!" (Loved that comment, victoria.)
Date: April 17, 2010
Subject: Re: HB's b'day
Yes, HB does act up when you’re around, and after you leave. You and I disagree on how this should be handled, but as his father I decide what’s best for him.
What made me upset about the last visit was not his behavior when you were leaving, but that you told him you were leaving because of him. You were actually leaving to beat the weather, but even if it was because of him, that’s not okay to say to a child.
But that incident is beside the point. The problem is that these visits in general have not been good for HB.
Right now, the best thing is to not have one on one visits.
We love you and HB knows that you love him. It would be great if you can come for the birthday party.
So far, no response at all.