Monday, June 07, 2010

Total Anticlimax

She behaved herself. She wore capris and a black top. She said nothing untoward, forward, or bloggable.

I am so disappointed.

As a consolation prize, here is a picture of HB in fresh nail polish, working at his new job:


(He rides with Mr. Softee almost every day. And dips the cones.)

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

HB's nailpolish is fantastic!

Jennifer said...

Perhaps your post should be about how thoughtfully standing up for oneself might sometimes be effective. I see success here: I observed that Nana was helpful at the party and deferential to you and T.H. Perhaps she listened to you and is trying to be a better Nana. How was she with H.B.?

r3 said...

I agree with Jennifer. Success can be understated and anticlimactic, but I'll take that over trauma and drama any day.

I think you guys have successfully managed Nana. You both should celebrate and do something nice for yourselves. Especially the TH. Way to go!

r3 said...

Oh, and his nail polish is all boy and all grunge/artist/hipster. He'll be not just fine, but great!

Anonymous said...

Don't let your guard down! I'm glad the party went well, esp for the sake of your son. I've known my extremely dysfunctional father-in-law for more than 26 years--he's been my FIL for more than 20. EVERY SINGLE TIME he's behaved in an appropriate manner at an event or holiday, he soon f***s up (sorry, that's the only word that describes it) sooner or later. I used to be oh, so hopeful when he "behaved" {realizing that "behaving" for him is just NORMAL behavior for most everyone else}. Being hopeful just makes it more of a blindsided kick in the head the next time he F'd up. Sorry to be negative about this...but since I've come to terms about my relationship with him (haha) and my husband's (let's not go there...he's still in the oh, so hopeful stage and guess who gets to pick up the pieces when FIL f's up again???) and do NOT expect anything more, it's actually easier when he does revert back to his usual behavior--sadly, the behavior that is "normal". Good thing that I have a minor in Behavioral Science...I can predict with uncanny accuracy the next "issue" that will arise and how he will "deal" with it (as in how he will blame who).

On a more positive note...I'M RUNNING!!! Not very far, at least not yet, and I'll never run a marathon or anything, but I LOVE IT!!! Your blog is so motivating and has such great information--THANKS!

Good luck with the MIL...you have insight to her behavior and are doing what you have to to protect your family and that's a huge part of the battle.

Anonymous said...

WOW! Stripper Nana is contrite. That was probably her equivalent of an apology.

Happy Birthday, HB!

-victoria

Ozzie said...

As happy as I am that there was no NanaMayhem, I am also somewhat bummed (and ashamed of my own Jerry Springer-esque hopes!). As long as I keep asking for stuff, could we have another zany medical story?

Also, what do you make of all this mega-super-pro-Vitamin D hype? It seems like everyone and their doctor thinks there's a national underachievement on getting vitamin D.

Anonymous said...

We'll always have Spatulagate...

Diana

E. said...

I agree that you can interpret Nana's good behavior as an affirmation of your assertiveness. But I also agree that you still can't let your guard down (and I know you wouldn't anyway b/c you're too smart and sensible).

In terms of the disappointment, material-wise, HB's nailpolish and the Mr. Softee anecdote more than make up for it. So excellent.

Artful Lawyer said...

Nana sounds like my Mom - stand up for yourself and you get (temporary) good behavior. Later she gets a few Manhattans into her and detects an insult against the most beautiful and brilliant woman in the world (that would be Sarah Palin) and you have a can full of screaming, cursing whoopass on your hands. Oh wait, I'm still talking about me.....

kirsten said...

more mr. softee pleez.

Old MD Girl said...

HB is very chic. I hear matte blue nail polish is in this year.

DoctorMama said...

Lesson learned: although being a hard-ass does not work with my son, it does with my mother-in-law.

We, my mom, and my good in-laws were on point for the whole party: if anyone spotted Nana taking HB off alone, they were to tag along. Only happened once, on my watch, and it was fun to chase them down. Or rather up, since she took him upstairs.

TH was pretty glum during the party, though. I wish he could find it as fun as I do at this point, but since it's his mother ...

I'm certainly not disappointed that HB experienced no trauma -- I'm just disappointed that since her behaving herself on one day really means nothing in the long run, might as well have some good stories to tell.

I'm remembering now how we had to do this before our wedding. The year before, TH's sister got married at Nana's, and Nana was horrifying. In part because of this (though mainly because weddings aren't my thing), we had our wedding in my home town and I handed over ALL wedding prep to my mother. Nana got no say in anything, and it was very peaceful. Not sure how/why we let down our guard so much.

Response to random question re: vit D: jury still totally out. I am checking it on a lot of patients, and I take supplements myself (not megadoses).

Gregory House, PA-S said...

After reading your blogs for years I think I'm finally starting to get into running. I decided that if I want to really make this happen I needed to get real running shoes ($$$) for my overpronating feet. Guess what - no pain! great runs! (soooo slowwwwly) I've even got a running partner who loves your method too.

Anonymous said...

The fact that you managed to stop letting Nana rile you guys up makes me fist pump for you. My mom is similar and even though I always tell myself that non-reaction is the best... or even that civilized reaction is best... it's oh so hard to not let her get to me. People like that know where to dig to make it hurt. So, I give you kudos. I'm glad HB had a great party! :)
~AS

Artful Lawyer said...

Interesting story about the weddings. My mother is a little whackadooley (see Sarah Palin story above) and for that reason I took over our wedding completely - 5 minutes outdoors with a nondenominational person and our own vows. I knew - and had known since I was 12 or so - that she'd make my wedding All About Her and a miserable disaster if I allowed it. The actual event was short and peaceful (with a handfull of screaming calls to me at work to "get my a$$ over to the department store and register so her relatives could buy me gifts" [not a single one did]) but how awful that we have to know this and be on guard!! ACH!

ozma said...

HB!!!

I love the nail polish.

Wow, HB needs to get together with my HG. I think they would love each other.

She is always trying to work, whenever we go anywhere. She sweeps the floor at Starbucks. She tries to help the stockboys at Trader Joe's.

She would absolutely DIE WITH JOY to serve out the Mr. Softees. That is super awesome.

Anonymous said...

Can I ask you a running question? I'm doing a weekly timed 5K with my son (12) and am gradually getting faster (27 mins last time). But, how on earth do you keep improving? And, at 44 yo, within BMI and reasonably fit, what sort of time would you say to aim for eventually. I know it's individual etc, but I've no idea at all. Thanks, Fiona

winecat said...

Well it is a bit of a bummer that Nana behaved herself. It sounds as if the real adults formed a circle around HB to keep him safe. I'm glad about that but I was really looking forward to hearing some naughty Nana tales.

HB is one cool kid. He is just so himself and you and TH are a cool set of parents to let him express himself in his own personal way. BTW this is the first time in a while I remember seeing a full face picture of HB, what a doll.