tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post7542988396217259368..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: I Didn't Mean Right NOWDoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-46279990849203552912006-11-16T16:33:00.000-05:002006-11-16T16:33:00.000-05:00My comment is on my BLOG. TOo long for your commen...My comment is on my BLOG. TOo long for your comment section.<br /><br />Also, I shared all your descriptions of how the anti-depressant affected your love life with my husband...we rolled laughing!!Surgeon In My Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13179150077622941677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-75760737820065336802006-11-16T11:05:00.000-05:002006-11-16T11:05:00.000-05:00Anonymous- "duh," indeed.Anonymous- "duh," indeed.DoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-69529980201469607452006-11-16T03:54:00.000-05:002006-11-16T03:54:00.000-05:00I don't know, but I think I expected a different t...I don't know, but I think I expected a different type of response coming from a doctor...To me this post reeks of, what? Lack of understanding where I'd expect there to be some? Something along those lines. Almost as though coming from a medical person I would expect you to know quite clearly what alcohol can and does to a person's brain, and therefore their judgement, their very soul. This poor Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-82244853186587655462006-11-13T22:46:00.000-05:002006-11-13T22:46:00.000-05:00Cec, do I believe it's a disease? Well, sure. Clea...Cec, do I believe it's a disease? Well, sure. Clearly the way an addict's brain is wired is different from the brain of someone who isn't susceptible. That's shitty luck, certainly, but you could also call it a disease. Doesn't seem much different from diabetes, hypertension, arthritis, you name it. People don't like to think of it that way because most people have fun getting there. But people DoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-59582081845516241462006-11-13T22:18:00.000-05:002006-11-13T22:18:00.000-05:00I think this is an example of how drugs de-humaniz...I think this is an example of how drugs de-humanize people. When you are addicted to alcohol, or cocaine, or whatever, you just aren't in control of yourself any more - the drug is in control. Some people are able to overcome it (as the previous poster did, at great trouble), and some people aren't. Somehow these chemicals are able to insidiously subvert your biochemistry in such a way that the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-75471822823394785492006-11-13T16:33:00.000-05:002006-11-13T16:33:00.000-05:00I'm curious about the question a reader posed. Do ...I'm curious about the question a reader posed. Do you believe it's a disease? <br /><br />I do, but then, I'm a recovering drunk.<br /><br />Also, I too hope someone reads this and has a wake-up. But they probably won't. Living sober is abnormal for the alcoholic--and that's why we care more about the booze than our families and friends. For this alcoholic, learning to live without alcohol was CecilyKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16502330613549817051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23541741833345165422006-11-12T15:17:00.000-05:002006-11-12T15:17:00.000-05:00I think that the difference between what I feel li...I think that the difference between what I feel like when I "need" a drink and what she felt like was something akin to the difference between the voices most of us "hear" in our heads and the voices that schizophrenics hear, the ones that make them jump and turn around to see who's there. I don't think I'll ever really be able to understand it.<br /><br />I don't think there's any question that DoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-86180207647623054822006-11-12T14:03:00.000-05:002006-11-12T14:03:00.000-05:00I came here for a picker-upper. Clearly I need to...I came here for a picker-upper. Clearly I need to move on. But I think the whole problem with addiction is that NOBODY can explain it. Hope you find an answer...if so, please share it.Fat Doctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09672076019531106668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-41581405631615315732006-11-11T19:53:00.000-05:002006-11-11T19:53:00.000-05:00doctormama, I just stumbled on your blog, I have t...doctormama, I just stumbled on your blog, I have to tell you, I just love it, your writing, point of view is just really wonderful to read.You really should quit medicine and start writing books, I wish your blog came in book format so I can just curl up somewhere to read every entry, sitting on the computer all day gives me back ache,LOL!! <br /><br />Your new fan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-62443542049414351242006-11-11T15:40:00.000-05:002006-11-11T15:40:00.000-05:00I really appreciated this post, along with your ot...I really appreciated this post, along with your others. Where have you been all my life?<br /><br />Thank you for writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-43203197640803095082006-11-11T10:49:00.000-05:002006-11-11T10:49:00.000-05:00I agree with Kim. If it were only so easy as a ch...I agree with Kim. If it were only so easy as a choice. Be careful about passing judgement on an illness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-13786457424450584662006-11-09T23:37:00.000-05:002006-11-09T23:37:00.000-05:00I feel sorry both to your patient and the daughter...I feel sorry both to your patient and the daughter. Things must have been hard back then.<br /><br />Hope there are people who can learn from this story.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing it with us, Doctor Mama.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23961098385960289172006-11-09T21:52:00.000-05:002006-11-09T21:52:00.000-05:00My dad finally quit drinking about two weeks befor...My dad finally quit drinking about two weeks before he died. I'm sure it helped my sister and me tremendously that he'd stopped drinking, because it had been a huge bone of contention for years. My sister had actually cut off contact with him, but fortunately saw him once or twice again before he died. He'd have been miserable sober, though, so it's actually lucky that his heart gave out when it Orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433254398377357737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-5068897031866607032006-11-09T21:05:00.000-05:002006-11-09T21:05:00.000-05:00I wonder if she could have found a faster way to k...I wonder if she could have found a faster way to kill herself. I wonder if it would have been easier on the people around her if she had. I don't know the answers.<br />I feel for her daughter, what a way to be abandoned.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-14104581453967860972006-11-09T17:29:00.000-05:002006-11-09T17:29:00.000-05:00I have known several alcoholics - some who quit an...I have known several alcoholics - some who quit and some who drank themselves to death. It is an awful way to go. It's an awful thing to try and overcome also. Do you believe it's a "disease"? In my experience, there's a lot more involved than just wanting to get drunk more than wanting to see your new grand-baby.Ottoettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04642495388582484595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-71579963044024403642006-11-09T13:34:00.000-05:002006-11-09T13:34:00.000-05:00I think Flicka's suspicion that her daughter must ...I think Flicka's suspicion that her daughter must feel some relief has got to be true, and for that reason I feel even more sad for her. Grief is so difficult, and adding anger and relief and the guilt that has to come with such relief to it... it's just so hard.E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10023959769203103393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-26057837768747306992006-11-09T11:47:00.000-05:002006-11-09T11:47:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry- stuff like this must get to you some...I'm so sorry- stuff like this must get to you somehow. And you JUST WROTE ABOUT HER!<br /><br />Now that I think about it... don't you dare write about me. Ever.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15515406196912595782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-30598023314194993042006-11-09T07:45:00.000-05:002006-11-09T07:45:00.000-05:00Now that is indeed a spooky coincidence. Having b...Now that is indeed a spooky coincidence. Having battled to have my kids, I find this difficult to comprehend but I suppose oblivion is preferable to the way she was "living". The finding of someone like that must be truly awful though - one of my students returned home from school one afternoon to find his mother (who I sometimes talked with at the gym) hanging from the bannister rail. Why do Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-61559234988265890402006-11-08T19:09:00.000-05:002006-11-08T19:09:00.000-05:00Oh no. That is just awful.Oh no. That is just awful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-79028094031885891762006-11-08T19:08:00.000-05:002006-11-08T19:08:00.000-05:00My MIL fits this profile, almost. I think she's in...My MIL fits this profile, almost. I think she's in really profound psychic pain all the time, and the alcohol dulls it. She has a permanent slur from brain damage related directly to drinking. (We think. I don't know what her doctor says. She doesn't tell him she drinks.) It's heartbreaking. But there was something really wrong before she started to drink, and drinking must have seemed to help.<Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-83258520523094893512006-11-08T18:34:00.000-05:002006-11-08T18:34:00.000-05:00I recently just wrote a post about alcohol and end...I recently just wrote a post about alcohol and ended it posing the exact same questiong.<br /><br />I really don't know how it comesdown to something like this.Gregory House, PA-Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03114548202436644026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-76894566442680894312006-11-08T17:51:00.000-05:002006-11-08T17:51:00.000-05:00Oh, that's awful. Her poor daughter. I have to w...Oh, that's awful. Her poor daughter. I have to wonder if this doesn't come as something of a relief, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23037278425477200802006-11-08T17:28:00.000-05:002006-11-08T17:28:00.000-05:00So, so sad. It would be one thing to drink yourse...So, so sad. It would be one thing to drink yourself to death, but don't people understand it is wholly another because of what it does to your family?eviechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16213878045484697029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-19519829105107697132006-11-08T17:27:00.000-05:002006-11-08T17:27:00.000-05:00Oh, her poor daughter.Oh, her poor daughter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com