tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post1909391146041706936..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: Of Baiting and Switching, with Many FootnotesDoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-91635139020470854142014-10-18T15:57:27.015-04:002014-10-18T15:57:27.015-04:00This is so horrible. It makes me angry to hear of...This is so horrible. It makes me angry to hear of a school behaving in this way, and mildly terrified of the school system in the area. You did the right thing pulling him out (and don't even think about the 25K). You are good parents -- please don't blame yourselves.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-74689633327648754242014-09-24T19:45:07.148-04:002014-09-24T19:45:07.148-04:00I have not checked in recently so I am so sorry yo...I have not checked in recently so I am so sorry you are going through this. Many people have commented on their own children's struggles, and I would add that we too are going through this with our so, age 16. It is frightening to watch the light go out of their eyes and withdraw from formerly enjoyable activities. He too is having difficulty attending school, but fortunately, at least so Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-49870011731624809422014-09-23T16:49:02.109-04:002014-09-23T16:49:02.109-04:00Hey, glad you've got a lawyer -- I'm anoth...Hey, glad you've got a lawyer -- I'm another Anne from Canada (I see one has already posted; I am a litigious one, though, unlike the other Anne) and I wanted to second all that. <br /><br />I have a six year old boy who has just started grade one... I worry that he might face some anxiety/depression stuff as he grows up, so I read your stuff with concern and sympathy.<br /><br />I am Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-55461716901155983732014-09-19T14:33:39.984-04:002014-09-19T14:33:39.984-04:00I'm horrified at how many people can't fin...I'm horrified at how many people can't find suitable educational environments for their children. I have six friends or friends of friends who have been or are in similar situations, and the despair and pain they feel is awful to see. I so much wish there were choices for kids for whom "regular" school isn't adequate. It's not a problem with the kids, but that's how Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-83211751753283544412014-09-18T10:18:01.222-04:002014-09-18T10:18:01.222-04:00Thanks LC - just being super cautious!
The lawyer...Thanks LC - just being super cautious!<br /><br />The lawyer we have is part of an educational advocacy group so we are learning about the options and it's also good to hear the experiences people are sharing here.<br /><br />and I hadn't read buffalomama - wow eerily similar, down to the long hair! I actually read parts of it to HB and it made him feel a lot better. He thinks he's DoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-76769731351678127142014-09-17T13:38:32.518-04:002014-09-17T13:38:32.518-04:00Don't know if I've ever commented here, bu...Don't know if I've ever commented here, but I just have to say how sorry and truly horrified I am that the school reacted this way. I am angry on your behalf as well.<br /><br />-B.A.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-22446088781353126352014-09-16T19:32:35.172-04:002014-09-16T19:32:35.172-04:00If you ever move to public school, get a 504 plan....If you ever move to public school, get a 504 plan. It's for when it's a justice issue rather than Spec Ed issue, and it's what we have for my son due to adhd, social anxiety, etc. <br /><br />So, so angry on your behalf. And hurting for HB and all of you. jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01357355756076585187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-25177762522481201752014-09-16T02:01:13.753-04:002014-09-16T02:01:13.753-04:00I empathize with your struggles in advocating for ...I empathize with your struggles in advocating for your child. We left public school for private due to a bad principal that did not advocate for students. 6 years later, we are back to public for high school and so-far-so-good.<br /><br />It has been shocking for me to see so many teachers/school administrators that have limited capacity to adequately recognize and accommodate students outside TC Seattlenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-48419235440503489112014-09-15T17:50:26.330-04:002014-09-15T17:50:26.330-04:00I just wanted to say: as a similarly empathetic, a...I just wanted to say: as a similarly empathetic, anxious child who grew up to be an adult who spends a lot of time in therapy, you're awesome for recognizing and dealing with this now. I know it's so, so hard. I wish my parents had responded half so well, and half so helpfully, instead of just making jokes about me being shy and bookish, when actually I was in my room, alone, crying and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-28950423057979172302014-09-15T16:40:49.849-04:002014-09-15T16:40:49.849-04:00Can't offer any advice or anything but sympath...Can't offer any advice or anything but sympathy and to wonder why people go into teaching when they clearly don't like kids. It sounds like a year out spent reading books, playing music and goofing off won't do HB any harm, if you can find a way to call that 'home schooling'...townmousehttp://cityexile.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-9631318628054336852014-09-15T13:56:24.803-04:002014-09-15T13:56:24.803-04:00Funny, that's something I've often said ab...Funny, that's something I've often said about my older son - "You've heard of Asperger's syndrome? He's got the opposite of that." I feel like it's very difficult to tease out what is behavioral vs. emotional vs. cognitive in his situation.<br /><br />Anyway...hoping you find a great school for him.Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-2060818029310509602014-09-15T13:40:31.655-04:002014-09-15T13:40:31.655-04:00Reading here forever, but rarely comment. This si...Reading here forever, but rarely comment. This situation breaks my heart. But I find comfort in the fact that HB has such amazing parents in his corner. I have no advice to offer, just wanted to let you know you are all in my thoughts.<br /><br />(another) KarenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-7162382667021987282014-09-15T13:35:58.737-04:002014-09-15T13:35:58.737-04:00Wow! Strange that I had the urge to surf by, afte...Wow! Strange that I had the urge to surf by, after months of not checking in... (but I've used your examples of Moth & Foosa to motivate my fat-cat clients ;-)<br />I'm afraid I can't do much more than offer moral support - we've been on the rollercoaster ourselves, W/Ex dragging our son into our court disputes over equitable child support/visitation. I took Z for evaluation Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-88062802553745198772014-09-15T12:32:30.728-04:002014-09-15T12:32:30.728-04:00zb - links always appreciated!
Jen G - yeah, whil...zb - links always appreciated!<br /><br />Jen G - yeah, while he shares some things kids with that often face - depression, anxiety, anger especially - he is actually so finely tuned to the emotions of others that it's often a problem for him. He's almost the mirror image of the spectrum, if that makes sense.<br /><br />Anne - we have lawyered up, for the first (and I hope last) time everDoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-48290773962678117142014-09-15T10:15:09.233-04:002014-09-15T10:15:09.233-04:00You may not have the energy for this particular fi...You may not have the energy for this particular fight, but in your shoes I would absolutely call a lawyer to get (at least) my $25k back. If you pay money to a private school and make a contract for certain services (whether this contract was verbal or written down) and those services aren't provided, then that contract has officially been breached and the money must be returned to you. I'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-32812024967678086112014-09-15T00:57:47.532-04:002014-09-15T00:57:47.532-04:00I see a lot of similarities between your son and m...I see a lot of similarities between your son and mine. My son was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at age 6. Have you ever explored that as a possibility? It seems like you're doing such a great job with HB! I know how awful it is when your child is struggling. You're in my thoughts!<br /><br />~Jen G.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-85735326183615332612014-09-15T00:15:52.313-04:002014-09-15T00:15:52.313-04:00So so sorry to hear how difficult this is for all ...So so sorry to hear how difficult this is for all of you. Many good wishes for many improvements to come. Abiding with you, however indirectly. Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-22068560566564915392014-09-14T16:15:04.723-04:002014-09-14T16:15:04.723-04:00Oh wow. I'm so sorry to read this. I'm new...Oh wow. I'm so sorry to read this. I'm new around here. Some of what you say about your son feels familiar to me as I parent my sometimes-challenging older son. I know having the right teachers and right school is critical in every way. I hate hearing about stories like yours, where the family is so clearly let down. I hope you find the right path for him for this year soon.Jillianhttp://jaysaint.comnoreply@blogger.com