tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post1803365129391342589..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: May I Have a Copy of the Agenda Please?DoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-47044114435759736412013-04-11T15:38:06.948-04:002013-04-11T15:38:06.948-04:00I'm going to second the EMDR rec. While I did ...I'm going to second the EMDR rec. While I did not experience the kind of trauma you did, I starting going to a therapist at Jefferson's Integrative Medicine program when I was in infertility treatments and at the point I would try anything. The therapist I saw did this (weird to me) muscle memory release thing that didn't feel like anything when I was doing it, but sure seemed to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-15490633664174728902013-03-31T14:37:24.709-04:002013-03-31T14:37:24.709-04:00FWIW, I did DBT for some similar issues (I was not...FWIW, I did DBT for some similar issues (I was not diagnosed with a personality disorder) and those therapists do have some pretty effective strategies for dealing with PTSD. One of the strategies: You write out the narrative of The Event(s) and you read it once a day until it becomes boring. It can make you feel worse initially but ultimately it helps end the unwanted intrusive memories and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-35280500584064172742013-03-29T13:08:15.329-04:002013-03-29T13:08:15.329-04:00I just ran 5.56 miles in one hour and 42 seconds w...I just ran 5.56 miles in one hour and 42 seconds while visiting the in-laws in Michigan. Just wanted to thank you for turning this indolent sloth into a runner. A year and a half ago I was 30 pounds overweight with high blood pressure and high cholesterol. At my last physical, cholesterol is normal, blood pressure is normal and I've lost about 15 pounds. I am no longer that bloated, shamblingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-65420428750271339672013-03-28T09:58:01.529-04:002013-03-28T09:58:01.529-04:00They have several interesting talks on NPR on ptsd...They have several interesting talks on NPR on ptsd and they go over various methods and treatments and meds: Here is an example<br /><br />http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/01/16/144672190/ending-nightmares-caused-by-ptsd<br /><br />or you can go to NPR<br />http://www.npr.org/<br />and search ptsd and see there is a lot of info out there<br /><br />There are also several Ted talks- found at <Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-55569783084032205292013-03-27T16:28:00.622-04:002013-03-27T16:28:00.622-04:00Look at some of the utubes on:
"Eye Movement ...Look at some of the utubes on:<br />"Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a treatment for posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)."<br /><br />mAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-67856416374555478382013-03-27T02:14:22.982-04:002013-03-27T02:14:22.982-04:00This is a testimony that i will tell to every one ...This is a testimony that i will tell to every one to hear. i have been married four 4years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another woman had a spell to take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2years until i meant a post where this man Esango Priest have helped someone and i decided to give him a try to help me bring my love Husband home and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-68628639806167516872013-03-23T21:50:10.181-04:002013-03-23T21:50:10.181-04:00About the dichotomy you mention of personal achiev...About the dichotomy you mention of personal achievement vs. these other things that clearly don't seem right to you--well, they're not mutually exclusive, right? You can be both--you are, by definition, I suppose. But maybe your thoughts around slotting to yourself into one or the other have to do with...<br /><br />...a need for control, which I think a lot of this post is about. Makes L.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-11195168335312050222013-03-22T08:56:58.825-04:002013-03-22T08:56:58.825-04:00you are all just so kind and insightful and just -...you are all just so kind and insightful and just - great.<br /><br />beenthere - I’d read a little of it but not a lot – thanks for pointing me to the phases of healing. Helpful. (When I read about this in general I find I either flip through like “not applicable, not applicable … ahhhh! Sob sob sob.”)<br /><br />parodie - I LOVE that analogy. And the “both true and not-true.”<br /><br />jillDoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-46600556518508875392013-03-21T16:25:59.540-04:002013-03-21T16:25:59.540-04:00"and I have spent years and years approaching..."and I have spent years and years approaching a sense of being truly present in the world without consistently or even frequently achieving it …"<br /><br />I think many thinking people feel this way at one time or another, or at most times, even. <br /><br />Hang in there. You are doing great.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00930427420786164103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-86083610168890401422013-03-21T14:02:56.276-04:002013-03-21T14:02:56.276-04:00dr. Mama, I feel so honored and privileged to be o...dr. Mama, I feel so honored and privileged to be one of the readers you shared your story with. <br /><br />I have a very similar story. I was able to confront one of the abusers as an adult and it was so liberating, and empowering, I can't even tell you. It was this moment in which I realized, "My life is my own, it's not tied to something that happened in the past." From Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-89316701129229357762013-03-21T11:06:58.141-04:002013-03-21T11:06:58.141-04:00You're doing great. It's hard, painful wo...You're doing great. It's hard, painful work and it feels like it just won't ever go away sometimes. It will get better, I promise. Just keep at it, keep processing, keep talking, keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keeping you in my thoughts and sending lots of good juju your way. xoxo<br /><br />dRCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-51870691791628230732013-03-21T10:02:15.564-04:002013-03-21T10:02:15.564-04:00well, just a thought and not trying to undermine y...well, just a thought and not trying to undermine your experiences - but just to say that it is possible to not like the thought of having sex and not to have experienced any abuse.I think shame on any level surrounding the topic - especially with anything bodily wise. Also, being with the same guy every day. Sorry but it can be boring sometimes when it is the same moves being made and they are Kimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-72971133619704340342013-03-20T03:08:06.095-04:002013-03-20T03:08:06.095-04:00Even though you're doing a wonderful thing, fo...Even though you're doing a wonderful thing, for the moment it sucks. I'm echoing everyone else, including TH, and telling you to cut yourself some slack. Honestly, think of all the amazing coping skills you've mastered over the years to get you where you are. They did the trick, you're even able to share with all of us all the blessings in your life to this point... <br />But, Carrienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-66811538316622826872013-03-19T17:17:36.987-04:002013-03-19T17:17:36.987-04:00I haven't checked in for awhile. Sorry to hear...I haven't checked in for awhile. Sorry to hear about your turmoil - glad you are finding support around you and that you are finding your way. Those men in your past are horrible, horrible people. You are being brave and working hard - definitely something to salute. Take care.Sarinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14362505926010138195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-10482030625087305762013-03-19T10:33:16.770-04:002013-03-19T10:33:16.770-04:00No wisdom. Think you are brave and wonderful, whi...No wisdom. Think you are brave and wonderful, which might not translate if I lurked. anne nahmhttp://annenahm.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-66877839483428454022013-03-18T23:21:06.360-04:002013-03-18T23:21:06.360-04:00I felt like I had to rebuild from nothing - ground...I felt like I had to rebuild from nothing - ground zero, starting with the things that were incontrovertibly true. I made lists of those things, and ran through them whenever I started to come unglued. Which was more than hourly at times. I PROMISE you that it will smooth out, and you will integrate or reintegrate, and sort of weave all the parts into the full tapestry of your life. Love and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-56476483155648854472013-03-18T21:56:14.541-04:002013-03-18T21:56:14.541-04:00Kids' concern metaphor is so perfect. When'...Kids' concern metaphor is so perfect. When's this going to be over? <br /><br />I think you should you make yourself a program. It will be over--soon. <br /><br />I do wonder if medical or partial medical leave and an accelerated therapy schedule doesn't make sense.<br /><br />I wonder if other things could work too besides running--like meditating, yoga and the like. Brain regulatingozmanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-71634598066214753352013-03-18T21:12:28.157-04:002013-03-18T21:12:28.157-04:00I kinda think i love your husband. keep that one. ...I kinda think i love your husband. keep that one. he's alright! :-)<br /><br />♥Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08637947893196880480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23525787297914192922013-03-18T17:18:57.902-04:002013-03-18T17:18:57.902-04:00Your husband rules. Cut yourself some slack for g...Your husband rules. Cut yourself some slack for goodness sakes!OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-51307605662406135532013-03-18T12:35:06.701-04:002013-03-18T12:35:06.701-04:00Jill's comment really speaks to me, and I just...Jill's comment really speaks to me, and I just want to second it: I've been wrestling with my anxiety recently, and the more I face it head-on, the worse it gets. I have to believe this is at least partially because the coping mechanisms I've been building up since I was a small child are being proven ineffective. <br /><br />So if one major coping mechanism is making my anxiety Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-34969330857921830722013-03-18T11:15:41.290-04:002013-03-18T11:15:41.290-04:00When I started really digging in I was a special e...When I started really digging in I was a special ed teacher. I wound up having to take medical leave for a couple of months, limped through the last couple of months of school and then took a year off to work in a children's store and sub. It's really rough. You're learning a whole different way of interacting with the world. You are probably growing whole new neural pathways. A Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09963493181798474313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-54716873393570372932013-03-18T11:05:00.325-04:002013-03-18T11:05:00.325-04:00One thing that had me almost bowing out of therapy...One thing that had me almost bowing out of therapy was that the panic attacks and anxiety got so much worse. But my therapist explained that it was normal because of all the feelings that came up with the memories and talking. Once I accepted it was okay to get worse before getting better, I continued the work. And it got better. <br /><br />It will for you too.jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01357355756076585187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-87812805365700794122013-03-18T10:57:01.519-04:002013-03-18T10:57:01.519-04:00This process will be a roller coaster ride.....man...This process will be a roller coaster ride.....many ups and downs. There are no shortcuts. Just hand in there and the end point will be well worth it. Your external life is good and that's why you can now focus on getting the internal life to match it.<br />gmgAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-4243228586624106312013-03-18T10:39:43.380-04:002013-03-18T10:39:43.380-04:00Your support team is absolutely right! Be kind to ...Your support team is absolutely right! Be kind to yourself, and keep telling yourself that it will get easier, and probably sooner than seems likely right now. <br /><br />You have made a sudden HUGE shift in how you understand yourself. It is normal for that to be completely overwhelming, unmooring, and for it to be hard to imagine how you can get a handle on it. Although this is a weird analogyparodienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-66692786882640708132013-03-18T10:33:25.028-04:002013-03-18T10:33:25.028-04:00I imagine you've probably read Judith Herman&#...I imagine you've probably read Judith Herman's "Trauma and Recovery" but if not, I highly recommend it. I found it very grounding and a very useful, super smart perspective. And, more to the point, she talks about phases of healing from CPTSD, which isn't exactly like an agenda but is sometimes close enough to calm me down, anyway.<br /><br />For me it has now been three andbeentherenoreply@blogger.com