tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post115462105745527192..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: Guilty or Not Guilty?DoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-12096179915145682762006-08-22T14:08:00.000-04:002006-08-22T14:08:00.000-04:00Sometimes in order to be a better mom we need to t...Sometimes in order to be a better mom we need to take time for ourselves. I feel guilty about putting my daughter in daycare all day and then taking her to the gym for another hour with a different babysitter while I go to yoga. But after yoga I am a relaxed mom and ready to tackle the rest of the evening with the energy I need. Remember a stressed out and overworked mom is no fun, take 30 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1155305192065592782006-08-11T10:06:00.000-04:002006-08-11T10:06:00.000-04:00My mother was the master of the guilt-trip. She'd ...My mother was the master of the guilt-trip. She'd sigh, paddle around the house, say things in a downtrodden voice like, "Well, if you won't come see me next weekend, I guess I'll find something else to do." Sigh.<BR/><BR/>As a result, I've always felt guilty about everything. The worst was when I got a new job and they gave me a desk in a smaller, satelitte office in the county where most of my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1155100085695477952006-08-09T01:08:00.000-04:002006-08-09T01:08:00.000-04:00*Puts on elaborate shaman hat, grabs wand made of ...*Puts on elaborate shaman hat, grabs wand made of rowan wood encrusted with sacred jewels* I hereby absolve you of all guilt! No longer will you be plagued with these annoying and unhealthy thoughts. I decree that you are worthy of a stress free, guilt free, happy joyous life! So be it! *Dances around in elaborate dance, shaking wand and ass* There, that ought to do it.Kungfukittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12751817802101019161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1155050844250467132006-08-08T11:27:00.000-04:002006-08-08T11:27:00.000-04:00Anonymous said:#2 - marvellous antidepressant meds...Anonymous said:<BR/><BR/>#2 - marvellous antidepressant meds - off them now too.<BR/><BR/>#3 - relaxation CD's<BR/><BR/><BR/>Hmmm. What are these? For future reference!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154982572229727622006-08-07T16:29:00.000-04:002006-08-07T16:29:00.000-04:00I grew up Catholic, and even though I dropped the ...I grew up Catholic, and even though I dropped the religion, the guilt stuck. I feel guilty about everything!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154962740476802672006-08-07T10:59:00.000-04:002006-08-07T10:59:00.000-04:00Meant to say, when your son wants you to play.Meant to say, when your son wants you to play.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154962695819719232006-08-07T10:58:00.000-04:002006-08-07T10:58:00.000-04:00For what it's worth, I think you put too much pres...For what it's worth, I think you put too much pressure on yourself. You are a wonderful everything (doctor, mom, wife, etc). Just try your best. You act with kindness and compassion. If you make a mistake, learn from it. Tomorrow is a new day. A fresh start. You can't possibly please everyone. And please don't worry about the people out there where it's hot. They'll use common sense. <BR/>As far Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154929306083614022006-08-07T01:41:00.000-04:002006-08-07T01:41:00.000-04:00I feel guilt when I go to work. Even if the kids a...I feel guilt when I go to work. Even if the kids are at school and their dad is there to welcome them home.<BR/><BR/>I feel guilt over the past 2 months I spent working my ass off at a position I knew was going to end with the end of July. I barely saw the kids and when I did I was too emotionally drained to really be there for them.<BR/><BR/>I feel guilt that I want to go back to work soon.<BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154886080360515482006-08-06T13:41:00.000-04:002006-08-06T13:41:00.000-04:00Oh my, I could write a book!I feel guilty:- that I...Oh my, I could write a book!<BR/><BR/>I feel guilty:<BR/><BR/>- that I don't feed my children better<BR/><BR/>- that I sometimes don't really like being a mom<BR/><BR/>- that I have visions of causing bodily harm to my MIL while screaming "shut the f up!" (she's visiting from FL right now!)<BR/><BR/>-that I don't like to bring my children swimming<BR/><BR/>These are just a few on my mind right Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154800825789661612006-08-05T14:00:00.000-04:002006-08-05T14:00:00.000-04:00I'm a third year medical student one week into my ...I'm a third year medical student one week into my first core rotation, OB. I feel guilty about being away from my two year old for over ten hours a day. I feel guilty about not being on the OB floor more than ten hours a day. I feel guilty about driving my car too and I feel guilty about using plastic diapers because I can't get it together enough to unpack the cloth ones. Sometimes I feel Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154752857103284122006-08-05T00:40:00.000-04:002006-08-05T00:40:00.000-04:00How about feeling guilty about feeling guilty?Have...How about feeling guilty about feeling guilty?<BR/>Haven't found a way out of that one yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154749307079932322006-08-04T23:41:00.000-04:002006-08-04T23:41:00.000-04:00If it feels good do it. If it doesn't, don't. (Wo...If it feels good do it. If it doesn't, don't. (Words to live by.)<BR/><BR/>I allow myself to feel good (mantra).<BR/><BR/>I cannot control everything (mantra).<BR/><BR/>These are my recent coping mechanisms.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154736036687121012006-08-04T20:00:00.000-04:002006-08-04T20:00:00.000-04:00I feel guilty that I cannot give my dog all of the...I feel guilty that I cannot give my dog all of the attention that he wants. DH works too many hours to be involved with the dog. No kids. So it's just me. And I need quite a bit of time to veg. <BR/><BR/>I solved it by bringing him to doggy camp 2xs per week where he loves the other dogs and the counselors so much.<BR/><BR/>I feel better about it but I still feel like I fail him in some ways.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04367588398516955834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154726205798311522006-08-04T17:16:00.000-04:002006-08-04T17:16:00.000-04:00I'm gonna save my most coherent thoughts on this f...I'm gonna save my most coherent thoughts on this for an upcoming guest post elsewhere (I haven't <I>had</I> the coherent thoughts yet, but I plan to assemble them soon). I'm pretty close to Dr. Wannabe—thoughts and behavior that might leave the average person racked with guilt feelings, meh, I let 'em roll off my back. Am I a selfish bitch or startlingly emotionally healthy on this front? Dunno.Orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433254398377357737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154724626247775362006-08-04T16:50:00.000-04:002006-08-04T16:50:00.000-04:00I don't think I feel guilty enough. Maybe I feel ...I don't think I feel guilty enough. Maybe I feel guilty about not feeling guilty. Actually, no, I don't really care. <BR/><BR/>I've never really been distraught over guilt. But I am easily persuaded to do things. (being a tool for friends) I suppose I do them out of guilt sometimes. It normally works so fast that I can't even realize why I'm doing what I'm doing.<BR/><BR/>But I don't thinkGregory House, PA-Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03114548202436644026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154722260005336942006-08-04T16:11:00.000-04:002006-08-04T16:11:00.000-04:00How about: "I'm so lucky to have a husband, job, a...How about: "I'm so lucky to have a husband, job, and son who are wonderful. Life is short - enjoy every second." I say that every minute of the day, and I'm done feeling guilty. Yes, I got incredibly lucky. But I'm not going to give it all back, so I have a responsibility to enjoy all of it. I spent 3 hours at the park with my son today, and my house is a mess. I'll reheat something for dinner, Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270855456960883441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154715829729021162006-08-04T14:23:00.000-04:002006-08-04T14:23:00.000-04:00I won't say how or whether you should deal with yo...I won't say how or whether you should deal with your guilt because it's different for everyone. I will say, however, that once my psychologist helped me understand that guilt is just another way for unexpressed anger or sadness to get out, I was able to manage my guilt much better. I just said to myself, "What does this guilt really MEAN?" (or the equivalent) and tried to understand what I was Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154715079523448782006-08-04T14:11:00.000-04:002006-08-04T14:11:00.000-04:00I feel guilty about the financial beating we are t...I feel guilty about the financial beating we are taking due to me finishing law school in 4 years instead of 3. <BR/><BR/>I feel guilty that I spend too much time of the phone with my BF.<BR/><BR/>I feel guilty about not doing much housework even though I'm home a lot, reading blogs. In fact, I might load the dishwasher right now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655779061173009120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154708762643042692006-08-04T12:26:00.000-04:002006-08-04T12:26:00.000-04:00I feel guilty...That I am away from my kids all da...I feel guilty...<BR/>That I am away from my kids all day but when we get home I feel as if they suck the life out of me sometimes and get annoyed with them (she's five, he's six months)...that I am not tending to my marriage as well as I should...that I am soooooo effin' tired each and every day....that I am not setting a good example with food choices and exercise for my daughter...that my houseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154706870781638312006-08-04T11:54:00.000-04:002006-08-04T11:54:00.000-04:00To be really non-PC...I should've been born Roman ...To be really non-PC...I should've been born Roman Catholic with a Jewish mother! I feel guilty if it rains. I feel guilty if my friend chooses a restaurant, orders her own food, and then doesn't like it. I feel guilty about EVERYTHING!<BR/><BR/>But...feeling guilty, like feeling embarrassed or angry, is (barring clinical depression and mental problems) a choice. <BR/><BR/>Just as I have to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154705183498268082006-08-04T11:26:00.000-04:002006-08-04T11:26:00.000-04:00DocMama,The thing that helped me most with guilt (...DocMama,<BR/><BR/>The thing that helped me most with guilt (and my list would be much shorter if I named what I did NOT feel guiltyabout), was when I heard a preacher speak about guilt and asked the question; "Do you hold OTHER people at as high a standard as you hold yourself?"<BR/><BR/>Those of us who are the type who feel guilty for everything we do including breathing someone else's air, are Surgeon In My Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13179150077622941677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154704831695754292006-08-04T11:20:00.000-04:002006-08-04T11:20:00.000-04:00Mantra: At least I'm not Bush, At least I'm not Bu...Mantra: At least I'm not Bush, At least I'm not Bush<BR/><BR/>Guilty: That I want sex SO MUCH MORE than my husband and that I sometimes make him feel bad about it (although he does have a healthy sex drive, mine is over the top, i.e. "is 3-4 times a day to much to ask?"<BR/><BR/>That I sometimes leave work early to spend time at home alone and then pick up my son from day care at the last Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154693192951235772006-08-04T08:06:00.000-04:002006-08-04T08:06:00.000-04:00Do some lists, get some persepctive, meditate, dri...Do some lists, get some persepctive, meditate, drink wine.<BR/><BR/>Everyone feels guilty about not doing wonderful things - I guess it helps everyone prioritise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154662214170005362006-08-03T23:30:00.000-04:002006-08-03T23:30:00.000-04:00I have no idea how to handle it either. i am in t...I have no idea how to handle it either. i am in the same boat as you, i think. i never really felt "guilt" before my son was born, and now i find myself feeling guilty for many of the same things you listed. I just try and do my best and not think about it too much. i dont know how effective that is, but its all i got for now.Kristiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11583736569012353198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1154658336084384622006-08-03T22:25:00.000-04:002006-08-03T22:25:00.000-04:00I feel guilty in the grocery store. I worry that ...I feel guilty in the grocery store. I worry that I'm buying the wrong foods... organic from California or conventional but locally grown (Ca is very, very, very far from DC). <BR/><BR/>I feel guilty about being impatient and intolerant and judgmental. <BR/><BR/>I feel guilty about not being able to keep up with politics and then do something when I'm frustrated about how out of control it has Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com