tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post1768947572100762234..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: Gender Bender Fender BendersDoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-42872372594749398792013-08-23T16:07:22.164-04:002013-08-23T16:07:22.164-04:00That mohawk is really good.That mohawk is really good.indianmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04801436687749910730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-76065457841261859682011-04-15T21:45:56.795-04:002011-04-15T21:45:56.795-04:00Damn. I wish I were as cool as your kid.
Not near...Damn. I wish I were as cool as your kid.<br /><br />Not nearly daring enough to sport a mohawk (not that I want one, but still). Sigh.Angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-34031082343961205762011-01-14T14:04:21.685-05:002011-01-14T14:04:21.685-05:00Have you heard of a book called "Princess Boy...Have you heard of a book called "Princess Boy" by Cheryl Kilodavis? You and HB may appreciate it.<br />http://www.amazon.com/My-Princess-Boy-Cheryl-Kilodavis/dp/1442429887/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1295031695&sr=1-1sqpeggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06388969865731954154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-57088490219080603522010-12-28T04:41:21.896-05:002010-12-28T04:41:21.896-05:00I know this is forever after your post, but I just...I know this is forever after your post, but I just want to say that I think your boy is amazing. I think he did an awesome job at manuervering through the situation, probably better than I would've done.Brithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08146962731903810868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23506728424271511432010-10-06T23:39:06.639-04:002010-10-06T23:39:06.639-04:00I think this is all awesome. I can't wait to ...I think this is all awesome. I can't wait to see what someone does with their life when they have such awesome parents. Probably change the world.<br /><br />It also seems to me that HB is growing up in an urban environment and is probably just imitating some of the current fads. He may be different for his age, but he's not revolutionizing fashion. He's a Williamsburg boy deep Gregory House, PA-Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03114548202436644026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23113186321991405872010-10-05T10:51:18.674-04:002010-10-05T10:51:18.674-04:00Just happened across your blog while researching j...Just happened across your blog while researching jogging strollers, and love what I see so far! My gender-bending Spouse and I are raising our gender-bending granddaughter who loves everything boy focused, except for the occasional princess top or sequined shoe. It's so much more accepted for girls to be "tomboys" than for boys to love pink and ponies and princesses. My heart broke Granny Geekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12940725767632022899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-60703280071101007102010-10-03T20:48:01.409-04:002010-10-03T20:48:01.409-04:00I say you are one cool Mama, HB is one awesome kid...I say you are one cool Mama, HB is one awesome kidand by extension TH must be one cool dad. Now grandma on the other hand...winecathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033530470009978632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-2946834760085671442010-09-26T09:51:22.408-04:002010-09-26T09:51:22.408-04:00I have no children and some would think that I am ...I have no children and some would think that I am disqualified from expressing an opinion. I don't like to do something just because people think it is inappropriate so here it is: Let them do what they want to do as long as it harms noone. If I had a boy child who wanted to wear dresses or fingernail polish I would tell him to be himself and explain how people don't want you to be Robinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-69925452743759038572010-09-22T21:35:24.991-04:002010-09-22T21:35:24.991-04:00I think the reason people get so upset is that the...I think the reason people get so upset is that they think the behavior can change the essential nature of the person--so if you let a boy wear nail polish, or let a girl have a crew cut, you are making it more likely they will be gay. The corollary would be that discouraging such behavior would somehow reduce that chance. It's amazing to me how many people still think that gender Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-85650357804017070432010-09-22T14:28:02.524-04:002010-09-22T14:28:02.524-04:00HB sounds absolutely awesome - and has better fash...HB sounds absolutely awesome - and has better fashion sense than I do. Oh well. I'm a straight female lawyer and my style icons are always male (or Bianca Jagger in a men's suit) but since I'm built like a female the whole thing goes to hell....<br /><br />Gender-bending, or whatever, doesn't bother me in the least - though I look at a nephew-in-law who at 10 is frankly quite &Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10207346299129996890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-39738060789550690922010-09-22T08:01:17.854-04:002010-09-22T08:01:17.854-04:00This sounds kind of stupid, but our three year old...This sounds kind of stupid, but our three year old has expressed a big preference for girls and no preference for clothing so long as he is not too hot or too cold.<br /><br />I on the other hand want him to grow up into a happy healthy adult. I couldn't care less about how he dresses or what sex or gender he prefers.<br /><br />It makes me happy in a way, because I suspect his life will be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-45815767673094131812010-09-21T02:17:53.899-04:002010-09-21T02:17:53.899-04:00A friend sent me a link to this post and I was utt...A friend sent me a link to this post and I was utterly charmed by your blog. I have been slowly working my way backwards in between working at my boring office job. I hope it's not too creepy to be doing that... I find myself just as engaged and informed by your posts from 2007 as your posts from yesterday.<br /><br />I just came across this list of started-not-finished posts:<br />The Kaviarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08409825601485451978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-16017478238379236512010-09-19T14:00:27.524-04:002010-09-19T14:00:27.524-04:00Good for you for raising such a true individual an...Good for you for raising such a true individual and not a lame kid who will go with the herd. It's important for him to stand up for himself and his beliefs. People will challenge him for many years to come, but he sounds like he's well grounded and isn't going to take any crap. And I love his mohawk!Flucky Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10190644424045109661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-95857424706988992010-09-17T16:15:05.642-04:002010-09-17T16:15:05.642-04:00OH MAN his Mohawk is awesome.OH MAN his Mohawk is awesome.Kehlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06986275622695244184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-73881515839629789682010-09-16T16:18:23.521-04:002010-09-16T16:18:23.521-04:00Mythical land? I'm in Ithaca, NY - depending o...Mythical land? I'm in Ithaca, NY - depending on the crowd you run with, there really aren't very many culturally enforced norms (my kids go to the rural school, and there are more there than in the downtown school) for kids and clothing. Or anything, really. It's definitely possible to self-segregate to an extent that your son would likely be one of the more sedate dressers in his suenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-30607091353268773252010-09-16T16:06:11.729-04:002010-09-16T16:06:11.729-04:00Your son sounds like a true individual, rather tha...Your son sounds like a true individual, rather than a gender-bender (whatever that might be). I'll confess (as I was recently doing to a friend the other day on this very topic), that having grown up as a die-hard fitter-inner (ok, ya), I have to really watch myself as I parent my older daughter (age 8) who totally marches to the beat of her own drum. <br /><br />My own inadequacies are monicac2https://www.blogger.com/profile/12847267744568415682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-61080883928005247422010-09-16T12:24:50.161-04:002010-09-16T12:24:50.161-04:00HB is just so stylish - I love it!HB is just so stylish - I love it!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08188110112312139648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-57306587318953049792010-09-16T07:43:10.488-04:002010-09-16T07:43:10.488-04:00My friends too have a hard time with some of kids&...My friends too have a hard time with some of kids' choices. And strangers seem to have a very hard time with them. It's annoying and I don't get it either. <br /><br />Your HB sounds fantastic and the "Do you have a Dad?" response was priceless.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00930427420786164103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-34816821986509511892010-09-16T06:29:21.242-04:002010-09-16T06:29:21.242-04:00I have 2 boys ages 6 and 3. The 6 yr. old is, like...I have 2 boys ages 6 and 3. The 6 yr. old is, like his father, very conservative. He does have his own sense of style but does not want to stand out or draw attention to himself in any way. However he did have me paint his toe nails this summer and loved it until a neighbor girl commented "I don't think boys are supposed to do that." He let it wear off but I'm sure he would wantStefanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-79080036879761380622010-09-15T21:15:29.443-04:002010-09-15T21:15:29.443-04:00my son is 15 now. when he was 3 years old he start...my son is 15 now. when he was 3 years old he started having opinions abt his looks. he wore and still wears bracelets (even ankle), necklaces, ears pierced, short hair long hair mohawks. when he was 7 he died his hair bleach bottle blond. he seems to have sorted himself out into a shoulder length layers (no dye) hair, vans, jeans and tee's only kinda guy. he's now talking abt tattoos. <brLnorigbhttp://www.lnorigb.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-75872011266627194282010-09-15T21:14:28.111-04:002010-09-15T21:14:28.111-04:00For me, my son's sexuality is a non-issue. For...For me, my son's sexuality is a non-issue. For my family (especially my in-laws) it is huge--they are enormously homophobic. To the point of absurdity.<br /><br />I would also worry about our society's penchant for violence against gays. That would be the real thing that would haunt me. Please don't hurt my child because of who he loves. But people do. Hopefully, by the time my child Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-3238800218498633292010-09-15T13:05:42.539-04:002010-09-15T13:05:42.539-04:00I love it! Bravo to you for allowing him to be hi...I love it! Bravo to you for allowing him to be himself.<br />I hope my 3 week old son can someday be as awesome as yours.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10998700965688959938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-82408779556336918222010-09-15T12:58:59.530-04:002010-09-15T12:58:59.530-04:00All my relatives got completely freaked out when m...All my relatives got completely freaked out when my nephews wanted to wear make up when they were three. The widespread gay panic -- wow, they had no idea how horrible they were.<br /><br />The idea of CARING about a small child's "masculinity" is like -- god, I don't know, like clitoredectomy (or even malecircumscision, for that matter). All these behaviors betray adults'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-69989306120959749942010-09-15T07:40:11.225-04:002010-09-15T07:40:11.225-04:00OMG those pictures are so great I would LOVE to ha...OMG those pictures are so great I would LOVE to have a son who dressed like that! I can only hope myownself's dear future offspring will have such style!<br /><br />And yeah - in both California and Israel, those sunsuits are very common on kids. Anyplace there are a lot of white people in the sun. Parents get tired of greasing the kids up all the time, and people are more aware of damage. ItAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-63974309961177374672010-09-15T06:23:27.515-04:002010-09-15T06:23:27.515-04:00The Mythical land of sunsuited boys? Australia. ...The Mythical land of sunsuited boys? Australia. My eight year old nephew wore a sunsuit almost exactly the same as HBs. Though, it is a bit of struggle to get them much larger than that.Rosemarynoreply@blogger.com