tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post1438448279807281006..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: HellDoctorMamaDoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-24100640915058796762007-09-05T22:05:00.000-04:002007-09-05T22:05:00.000-04:00Hi DoctorMama, I'm one of those no kid people but ...Hi DoctorMama, I'm one of those no kid people but I had to stop by and say What a Beautiful Picture! It is just priceless. Bet you and TH were enjoying the peace.winecathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07033530470009978632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-72694900252043833902007-08-28T20:57:00.000-04:002007-08-28T20:57:00.000-04:00Look at that sweet picture. Here's a sentence tha...Look at that sweet picture. Here's a sentence that gets said at least once a day at my house:<BR/><BR/>At least he's cute.<BR/><BR/>(or: It's a good thing he's cute.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-74220935286879456662007-08-28T20:29:00.000-04:002007-08-28T20:29:00.000-04:00The school counselors here offer workshops for par...The school counselors here offer workshops for parents of challenging kids. They use an approach called The Nurtured Heart Approach to Parenting. The website is http://difficultchild.com/<BR/><BR/>Don't know if it will help, but thought I would pass it on.<BR/>JillAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-81335275167948411632007-08-28T10:09:00.000-04:002007-08-28T10:09:00.000-04:00Hi, I just came over from Snickollet's site. I wan...Hi, I just came over from Snickollet's site. I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. My son is also willful and intense and like your son can be very sweet and loving. I find it hard not to feel embarrassed and judged when others see my son acting out or having a tantrum. I know that their words or reactions shouldn't affect me but they do. I also wish there were magic words to help my Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-23730139684922174212007-08-22T02:12:00.000-04:002007-08-22T02:12:00.000-04:00I work with families and I love it when parents ca...I work with families and I love it when parents can talk about their children's inner being and reasons for why they are they way that they are or why they're doing what they're doing. I think it's hardest for parents to parent a child like themselves for just the reason you stated here, you've been there like not many other people have been. You've felt it, breathed it, and a lot of times Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-808001416432557772007-08-21T22:26:00.000-04:002007-08-21T22:26:00.000-04:00I do not have a kid who challenges me the way that...I do not have a kid who challenges me the way that yours challenges you. But I think that you are right that "you are who you are" and you cannot change the basic core of your kid you just have to find good strategies. I loved the book "The Baby Whisperer for Toddlers" by Tracey Hogg. It helped me to see my son better and figure out how to short circuit some of the undesirable behaviour. Not on Firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00905351447791950134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-39204655681172934942007-08-21T15:40:00.000-04:002007-08-21T15:40:00.000-04:00I love that picture.Please share any child-managem...I love that picture.<BR/><BR/>Please share any child-management tricks. Mine are just getting to the Age of Discipline, and already I can see that my repertoire is small and pitiful.Snickollethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-50757440826275370382007-08-20T17:45:00.000-04:002007-08-20T17:45:00.000-04:00From a parent of a special little boy, such as you...From a parent of a special little boy, such as yourself. I like to thank you for this post. I struggle DAILY with my son and his crazy behavior, I see a light at the end of the tunnel~ Good luck!<BR/>KimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-44380280725345062462007-08-20T11:33:00.000-04:002007-08-20T11:33:00.000-04:00Dr. Mama, thanks for not banning me. :-) (If I e...Dr. Mama, thanks for not banning me. :-) (If I ever do step over the line, just tell me to stop commenting and I'll respect your wishes.) I like your description of yourself as principled & firm and it makes me think that what made you a HellGirl as a toddler probably has helped make you the high achiever you are now. Fierce self-confidence and certainty help you to to approach tasks with Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-70023370119609167442007-08-20T10:41:00.000-04:002007-08-20T10:41:00.000-04:00Anonymous 1—What a great description! I’m trying t...Anonymous 1—What a great description! I’m trying to think of a similarly apt one for your kid, but (not surprisingly) can’t. My word for him, though, is <EM>unflappable</EM>. HB? Highly flappable.<BR/><BR/>onward and upward! — “Agonize Less, Enjoy More” is a great mantra. I can so imagine what it was like in that bathroom. I’d want to do bodily harm to that mother, even now. Yes, I think it mightDoctorMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-68591776210751671002007-08-20T00:54:00.000-04:002007-08-20T00:54:00.000-04:00Yes, I too would like some magic words. Maybe I co...Yes, I too would like some magic words. Maybe I could use them in other contexts.<BR/><BR/>As for the 'just like me' thing--My child is so like me it is terrifying. Particularly, her difficult personality traits. These little quirks I didn't even distinguish as little quirks of mine until I saw her do them and went "Oh. Shit."<BR/><BR/>I wanted her to get his personality. Oh, how I wished for Ozmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02975578823318395358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-84328955627350923872007-08-19T10:04:00.000-04:002007-08-19T10:04:00.000-04:00Hey, off topic, but how 'bout a post on some of yo...Hey, off topic, but how 'bout a post on some of your magic words for various patient situations?Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15606922510495018342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-50242963187172880582007-08-19T04:57:00.000-04:002007-08-19T04:57:00.000-04:00I think that's the key to it all - time to reflect...I think that's the key to it all - time to reflect.<BR/><BR/>I don't have any children (yet - hopefully) but we do watch shows like Supernanny here in the UK. I know a lot of people are a bit sceptical about her methods and whether that would work for their child but I think the naughty step is just a version of time out - which clearly does not work initially because the child does not want to Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03503939114440277312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-48090565886508792712007-08-18T18:49:00.000-04:002007-08-18T18:49:00.000-04:00I just had one of those terrible visual fantasies:...I just had one of those terrible visual fantasies: what happens if you start having a tantrum when he has a tantrum? heeheee, scare the bejesus out of the kid.....wouldn't that be something? It might even shock him into silence. Definitely not mature, not rational, not whatever, who cares. Sometimes trying to be a grown up can be very difficult.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-86298542440199285662007-08-18T13:45:00.000-04:002007-08-18T13:45:00.000-04:00I love your writing and your sense of humor -- esp...I love your writing and your sense of humor -- especially your nicknames. HB and TH tickle my funny bone every time I think about what they stand for, so please know you have one (admittedly agnostic) admirer who "gets" you.<BR/><BR/>Not being a parent, I don't have parenting advice to share. But I just wanted to de-lurk to say how much I love your blog, your writing, your family, and you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-47825097503616666662007-08-18T13:36:00.000-04:002007-08-18T13:36:00.000-04:00Another docmom here with another willful son - onl...Another docmom here with another willful son - only mine is now 20 and I've been down the therapy road. Let's just summarize with a quote from one of the 3 therapists that we've seen with him: "Wow, he scores off the chart on the oppositional-defiant scale." The good news: he's bright and like a bull-dog when there's something he wants. I've decided that these are skills that are very handy Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15316358763008348127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-78315747105138564632007-08-17T22:50:00.000-04:002007-08-17T22:50:00.000-04:00Oh, how adorable! Thank you for sharing your thoug...Oh, how adorable! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings and struggles, as well as the great picture.Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06066499436533594138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-70652927845984303342007-08-17T21:59:00.000-04:002007-08-17T21:59:00.000-04:001. Hellboy is an awesome movie.2. I was the furthe...1. <I>Hellboy</I> is an awesome movie.<BR/><BR/>2. I was the furthest thing from a hellion child. Shy, quiet, hiding behind a book, not much for speaking up for myself. Believe me, growing up with that temperament also does not equip a person to be an effective parent of a "wild child." My wild boy is much easier now. Is it because he's 7? Is it because I'm doing a better job of making sure he Orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433254398377357737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-32043646789163292872007-08-17T17:51:00.000-04:002007-08-17T17:51:00.000-04:00That pictures is SO sweet. We have a few of those...That pictures is SO sweet. We have a few of those from our house. My son not only looks like me, I know he gets the majority of his willfulness from me, too. I remember as a child being told, "you just want to do what you want to do" which really made no sense to me. Who doesn't want to do what they want to do? But now I know it meant that I was not yielding to what they wanted me to do (eviechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16213878045484697029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-12660362163950713822007-08-17T15:16:00.000-04:002007-08-17T15:16:00.000-04:00Mmm--so if dealing with him is like dealing with y...Mmm--so if dealing with him is like dealing with you, what works best in dealing with you?<BR/> And--just curious--how about a post on the "magic words" that you use all the time? Like what? I'd love to lengthen my magic words and phrases list....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-26581703021534124372007-08-17T14:31:00.000-04:002007-08-17T14:31:00.000-04:00Some children are just more difficult than others,...Some children are just more difficult than others, unfortunately. I have a son that went through a horrible stage with tantrums. It did make it easier to deal with when it was so obvious that he did not enjoy it, he would just melt down and lose control. I would tell him that I was sorry that he felt that way but that it was not fair to make anyone else listen to the screaming. I would then Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07915912351833244193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-47566734156431369022007-08-17T13:24:00.000-04:002007-08-17T13:24:00.000-04:00When I read Raising your spirited child I got to t...When I read <I>Raising your spirited child</I> I got to the "slow to adapt" part and had a shock of recognition. It was EXACTLY me. And, oh yes, C. My own TH just rolled his eyes (like "what, you didn't realize that she's exactly like you?"). <BR/><BR/>Of course a year later the adaptability issues have faded somewhat, and now the intensity is the big thing--and HAH! I can say now that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-40336405406137275632007-08-17T12:56:00.000-04:002007-08-17T12:56:00.000-04:00I comforted myself through my son's "moods", manip...I comforted myself through my son's "moods", manipulations, & [fortunately very few] tantrums by reassuring myself that he was only trying to exert control on the very very tiny slice he COULD at the time...<BR/>It does get better when they get older & [gasp!]develop some reasoning skills...<BR/>Another Indulgent MomValhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152215204773184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-12224298852298037132007-08-17T12:36:00.000-04:002007-08-17T12:36:00.000-04:00I missed the boat on commenting on previous post -...I missed the boat on commenting on previous post - no good excuse since it was 2 weeks ago...<BR/><BR/>But I wanted to suggest to blame it on your obstetrician...I don't see another other valid explanation<BR/><BR/>Your obstetricianAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-6336890834159109842007-08-17T10:36:00.000-04:002007-08-17T10:36:00.000-04:00Hey DM,I too was one of those intense, willful, an...Hey DM,<BR/><BR/>I too was one of those intense, willful, and active children. I was also completely aware and sensitive of my disposition from an early age. I was labeled Wild Child by age two. My caretakers and teachers always had the same comments--she's so bright, but so bossy and stubborn and she talks way too much in class, she just needs more direction and self control. Those comments Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com