tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post113759715226505865..comments2023-12-11T08:19:00.272-05:00Comments on DoctorMama: Shopping with Rose-Colored LensesDoctorMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05187502628715846144noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1137708265846948292006-01-19T17:04:00.000-05:002006-01-19T17:04:00.000-05:00There are always issues surrounding infertility an...There are always issues surrounding infertility and loss of a child. <BR/>As a person who is infertile, I don't begrudge anyone their children, so I don't want people with kids, or women who are pregnant to feel like I don't celebrate with them. <BR/>On the other hand, I am trying to conceive, but have never lost a child, so this is the area where I tend to get lost. Beyond telling someone I am Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1137706446347803392006-01-19T16:34:00.000-05:002006-01-19T16:34:00.000-05:00Thank you Doc for your help on that. I know many a...Thank you Doc for your help on that. I know many and I am meeting more and more women facing this issue, and I get tongue tied and nervous. Like bihari said, I wonder if I should hide my kids or try to talk the talk somehow...<BR/>Anyway, it made me think of so many cases in which people close to me have suffered a loss and I feel so inadequate. I'm sure there's a guide somewhere I haven't been Mignonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07716330276288396317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1137705908232332192006-01-19T16:25:00.000-05:002006-01-19T16:25:00.000-05:00People don't REALLY say stuff like that to women u...People don't REALLY say stuff like that to women undergoing IF treatment, do they?... DO they?! Basically, "If you were smarter/more emotional stable/in the good graces of the Almighty, you'd have a kid already, silly!"? Wow. That leaps right over the line separating "misguided" from "demeaning and cruel". If someone did that to me, I'd be tempted to plunge a syringe of Pergonal right into thumbscre.wshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04626759468694284273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1137697439151592042006-01-19T14:03:00.000-05:002006-01-19T14:03:00.000-05:00Everyone reading here already knows what not to sa...Everyone reading here already knows what <I>not</I> to say to an infertile woman, right? "Maybe it's not meant to be." "You know, there are only certain days of the month when you can conceive." "Just <I>relax</I>." "Start adoption proceedings. My sister-in-law got pregnant as soon as the adoption came through." "Oh, you're lucky! Kids are such hard work."Orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433254398377357737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1137663748994037242006-01-19T04:42:00.000-05:002006-01-19T04:42:00.000-05:00There are some other things I think have confused ...There are some other things I think have confused me, mostly from reading infertility blogs. (1) People don't say that much about being infertile, about their feelings about it, about what they are facing--most people are extremely ignorant of what's going on. In fact, it can be confusing because a lot of people don't even know what infertility is really--like if you are undergoing treatments, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15583952.post-1137641608074295992006-01-18T22:33:00.000-05:002006-01-18T22:33:00.000-05:00What're you trying to say, you don't want my life ...What're you trying to say, you don't want my life (I notice that you used the phrase "fortuitous fertility" in reference to me in the comments on your last one, so of course I have assumed I'm who you're talking about with this one, and really, it's all about me so who else would you mean)? Why the fuck not? Hmph :-)<BR/> I have found that the magic phrase also applies to friends pouring Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com